My problevms are not 100 percent fixed, and we don't have sex as often as either of us would like, but when we have it, it's worlds better than when we started out.
For me, being comfortable with my husband and secure in the relationship made it so much easier to communicate and work on fixing the problems together.
at first but—holy moly—the sex got a fuck of a lot better after the wedding," I wrote in my response to IMDONE.
I fucked my husband on our first date because I wanted to see if he was any good. I also suffer from depression and anxiety, I'm on the autism spectrum, and I've experienced sexual trauma.
I addressed my problems through counseling, medication, physical therapy, and even surgery.
It helped that we shared some kinks and were both up for what we agreed would be a nice and mostly companionate marriage. Turns out he needed that emotional attachment to feel safe and secure enough to open up and relax and enjoy himself. All it took for the sex to get better was practice and paying attention to cues and solving problems.
I strongly suspect that perseverance and a bit of luck were also major factors.