It is not inappropriate; talking to someone does not mean you have a “crush on them” nor does it mean they have one on you. You do not need to flirt in order to have fun with those of the other sex.
Avoid doing anything you will regret once you are married. In other words, do not focus on how you are being perceived, but instead focus on how you are making other people feel. Not only do they know more about life, dating, and men and women; but they know you pretty good, too.
We are all fallen human beings, bent on foolishness and selfishness.
So, the question becomes when does a red flag mean, “proceed with caution” and when does it signify “run for your life!
For other people, although God may be leading them, the feelings for each other take time to develop.
So here goes: Your quality and purpose of life is not determined by whether or not you date or get married.
Like any relationship, dating and marriage should not be put into a box. Remember, you are trying to figure out if the two of you are a marriageable match. Your relationship is not so important that you cannot enjoy yourselves! Do romantic things, do normal things, do things together, and do things with your friends!
Although it is not crucial to be good friends before you start dating, the better you know someone the, well, better. Although “to have fun” is not the purpose of dating, dating should be fun. Marriage will be one of the hardest things you do, so set a joyful precedent.
Do not be afraid if it does not work out, you have still fulfilled your purpose in dating. Just because it happened a certain way for your older siblings or friends does not mean it will be that way for you.
For instance, some people fall in love immediately and they have a smooth dating experience.