No matter how much we want to, we can’t build up the motivation to give you everything if we know you’ve been content with us giving you barely anything.We need to be challenged, we need to know that you’ll accept nothing less than everything.”This is why I tell you repeatedly to act like the CEO and treat men like interns. It’s all valid and acceptable, but consider this, I’ve turned down the handful of date requests from decent guys I’ve gotten over the past year .Still though, no matter how stern our warnings, no matter how many times we tell you that our emotional unavailability is serious and not a game, you still find away to allow yourselves to fall to the point of no return.”“If we communicate to you, in no uncertain terms, that we’re very interested in you, but not interested in anything serious with anyone, and you choose to proceed, we see that as the green light to be the naturally great guys we’ve always been.
Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean he’s dead.
(Oh, boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…)“Men use a formula to assign value to the women in their lives and a large part of that formula is derived from how much we believe that woman values herself.
If you’ve been giving us all of you while requiring nothing more than our bare minimum then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself and we know in our heart we can never be with you.
It means he’s not serious about falling in love at this point.“Now the fact that we are emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean that we’re no longer desirous of a woman’s attention and affection.
It also doesn’t mean we’ve lost the ability to perceive attractiveness and beauty and it most definitely doesn’t mean we’re no longer interested in sex.