Within a month of attempting to maintain my rotation, though, I disappointed one guy enough to get the, “I need to respect myself and not see you anymore” text. Even though I was into him and disappointed he wanted to cut the cord, I knew I wasn’t ready to be a girlfriend again so soon.
(Despite the old-school belief that men are born to "sow their wild seeds," some men want monogamy, too, duh.)Gretchen, a 30-year old producer living in Los Angeles, says relationships in her rotation also seem to be short-lived.
If it causes you unnecessary stress, or you’re using the relationships to avoid other issues, opt out.
And, if you're meeting a lot of interesting people, "keeping your options open," and having a blast?
Now that I'm older, I usually tend to only have strong feelings for one guy at a time.”Though dating a horde of people can feel fun and freeing, for most adventurers, it isn’t entirely sustainable.
“I don’t plan on dating this way forever,” Monica says.
While, it's been fun and I've learned a lot, I'm thinking that maintaining a rotation isn’t the best thing for me right now. Atypical relationship models work for many people — even if they’re temporary.
Because, really, whether or not dating many-a-partner is something you think you can handle, the most vital thing is to focus on your emotional and physical well-being. As with any romantic scenario, it’s important to have regular mental check-ins with yourself to determine whether the pros outweigh the cons.
People who get involved too quickly shut out others because they don’t rotate dates.They’re all in the notes section of my phone: the 26-year-old graphic designer from Baltimore. A couple of actor/bartenders who live within a five-mile radius of my place in Central Los Angeles.The 37-year-old who works at an ad agency, has a sweet pit bull, and an enviable vinyl collection — but is so obviously not over his ex-fiancée.“I could only juggle three people at a time for one-month spans before it got out of hand — someone would freak out or want commitment,” she says.“I dated someone for nine months that came out of a rotation.