Recent research conducted at Swinburne University investigated the dating and relationship practices of older Australian adults aged between 60 and 92.
Those who had met their partners through dating websites went online because they felt there were very limited places and opportunities to meet like-minded others and because they no longer took part in the pub and club scene.
After analysing data from over 12,000 members, online dating site e Harmony has a new list out of the words that work best for attracting singles, and the words to avoid to stop a potential love match moving on to the next profile. For men, the study found using adjectives like “perceptive”, “physically fit”, and “passionate” greatly increase your chances of women making the first move online.
Men describing themselves as “quiet”, “energetic”, and “respectful” can be hurting their chances.
Neil liked the structured approach to meeting people he found online and he liked that there were numerous potential partners who might be interested in him.
Just because someone is single, widowed or divorced, that does not mean they are interested in dating. Older adults who have, for the most part, been married or cohabited long-term, fear the embarrassment of getting it wrong. For many older adults, online dating is easy, relatively safe, anonymous and provides a structured approach to what is typically an unstructured process. The setting up of profiles, viewing others’ profiles and photographs, sending “kisses” or “stamps”, responding with emails, chatting online or by phone and in due course meeting in real life, is a process organised and regularised by the online dating websites. Many older adults initiate meetings with numerous prospective partners over many months.
Also, you’ll learn just how awful a person can be and, if you’re attractive enough, still reel in the dates.
First you’ll hear Stephen Dubner interview Alli Reed, a comedy writer living in Los Angeles, who conducted an experiment of sorts on Ok Cupid: So she created a fake profile for a woman she called “Aaron Carter Fan” (Aaron Carter, for the uninitiated, is the younger brother of a Backstreet Boy.) Reed loaded her profile with despicable traits (see the whole list below) but used photos of a model friend. (For more, see Reed’s article “Four Things I Learned from the Worst Online Dating Profile Ever.“) Oyer hadn’t thought much about online dating until he re-entered the dating scene himself after a long absence and was struck by the parallels between the dating markets and labor markets. Vogt opened up his Ok Cupid profile to let Oyer dissect and, theoretically, improve it.
While “sweet”, “funny” or “ambitious” women get between 28-38% more approaches.
Here are 10 of the best and worst words both men and women can use in their dating profile.